We learned a lot from J's therapist's visit. She was very nice, but more than that I could tell that she was very competent. She started throwing around things like sensory diet, and deep muscle stimulation. These raised a red flag to me. We weren't aware that J had any medical diagnosis, and yet clearly they were treating him for something. So I asked her outright what they were treating him for, and she said that they didn't make diagnoses, that they weren't doctors. But I should read the book The Out of Sync Child.
After she left I started googling as fast as my fingers would type. I'd heard sensory diet in conjunction with Autism, but I knew he was not autistic nor did he have ADD, even though his behavior even now could be defined as hyperactive. But he'd always been like that, he has a need to move, has had that since being in utero. He is able to focus on tasks (of his choosing) for long periods of time. Since his growth spurt, he hasn't hit another anyone for almost 2 weeks and he now has 100 words. I stopped counting after that, it's double what a 2 year old should have so I don't think that's an issue any more. It appears that they think he has Sensory Integration disorder. And he really does have every symptom of a subcategory addressing the constant need to move (and crash into things). All the occupational therapy tips that she gave me are working really well with him. Finding out second hand like this, without a doctor or someone to answer our questions is hard. And I'm hesitant to go back to our pediatrician, as she seems clueless and thought he was just a discipline problem. So, now I'm doing my own research and finding that I think I need a new pediatrician and possibly a real occupational therapist, since the prognosis for these kids is excellent if given therapy early on.
And here is where things get really weird. In the past two weeks I have had people throw out the word gifted several times. Now that he is less angry and frustrated, it's clear that he gets bored quickly with toys, with people, with situations, everything. An example: All the kids in his class yesterday were given a small tennis racket (I know, oh good gracious) and they all sat quietly and put the racket on their heads and stood on it when the teacher asked. My spirited child? He was in the back of the room with the racket, crawled into the tub of balls, pulled one out that was about the size of a tennis ball and started "playing" tennis with me. He was fully engaged in the activity, but you could tell he took it to the nth level above and beyond what was going on in the class. The teacher walked over to me and said, "Do you play tennis with him?" And I said, never. He must have seen people playing when we were at the park. He misses nothing. Since it was the last class, the teacher pulled me aside and said, "I know he is a handful, he never stops moving. But he is the smartest child I have seen in a long time. I wonder if he will be a genius when he grows up." Her words made me cringe. I've heard this before about J.
I don't want that/this for my child. I know what that is like, it's a lot of pressure to have adults think that of you, expect that of you. It's hard to be happy, it took me 2.5 decades of my life for my nervous system to calm down enough that my foot didn't shake involuntarily. And the statistic I read about Sensory Integration disorder hit me like a ton of bricks-1/3 of gifted children have that. I suspect I had that, and that must have been why I drove my own parents insane, being hyper verbal, unable to sleep or calm down. But who better to understand him, to understand this? I know exactly what it feels like, how hard it is. Such a double edge sword, you get the amazing memory and perceptiveness, but your nervous system is so amped that feel like you could crawl right out of your skin sometimes.
And now that I'm certain I've shared way too much information about J and me, I'll kind of change the subject. Another layout with Baby boy A Kiss on the Chic kit:
Happy Friday everyone!