Monday, February 16, 2009

Chocolate fixes everything, right?

My house has been ravaged by illness. It's the quickest way I know of to kill a 3 day weekend! It started Sat night for me, and by Sunday morning I was a zombie. Some colds are just a little sniffle and a lot of cough. This, this was more like a plague. It's been years since I had such a high fever, chills and general malaise (fatigue/body ache). It was completely debilitating. My dh is a trooper though, totally took care of my son, who despite our very best efforts is sick today. This is only his second illness ever, and he is still not yet been sick enough to go to the doctor for a cold/flu. Yet. I have my doubts about this evening, it could be interesting. I feel much better now though. I have a theory about things that are so noxious, they blow in and out like bad weather. 
Update: I'd like go all Donald Trump on the pediatrician (your fired!), but things are rarely that simple. We have hearing tests and speech evaluation referrals in the works. If I go request his records now, she could refuse to submit the proper referrals and then I would be up to my eyeballs in bills from the insurance. So, it's best not to cut off my nose to spite my face. However, I have declined the behavioral specialist referral, stating "It's a diagnosis of exclusion, and we have actual speech issues that need to be addressed." That said, dh and I have stepped up our approach to the hitting issue. It's one thing to empathize with his frustration, but the action is not acceptable. Mainly I just take his arm in my hand and bring it to his side and tell him "stop" and amazingly, it's working. I don't think 2 year olds like being told what to do (shocker), because he has definitely decreased that behavior. I used to think telling him the same thing over and over meant I was doing something wrong. Now I think it means I must be doing something right. Even though the sacrifice is often my sanity.
And this is how I know he is my son. Now that we have a date for the speech evaluation, little dude has added 1 phrase and 3 new words to his vocabulary this week. "I go; good, boat and plane".  One of the words he has had for a while is "ball." I think he must be trying to communicate something about the ball being good, good throw or catch or something because he walks around saying "ballgood." But to me it sounds like "it's all good." Makes me laugh, and that works for me!
Lastly, I wanted to show you my valentine's day present. Dh and I ordered chocolate for each other from Norman Love. I got milk chocolate and he wanted dark chocolate. Here are some pics from my box: (sorry Julie)
It was good. Hope you had a great weekend. I'll update with some projects soon since it looks like I'm going to live. :)

12 comments:

Rita said...

Yummy, that chocolate looks good! Sorry about the sickness...that is never fun! I hope you get good news with the speech and hearing evals. I just recently changed peds (due to insurance) so now I am starting the whole process of getting used to a new dr again. Having someone who takes his/her time with the kids and really listens to the parents is so important. I hope eventually you can find someone who is on the same page as you. Good luck!

Susan Beth said...

So glad you'll live! And the chocolates are a great motivation for that! The over and over again with parenting is so tiring, but consistency is the key to so many successes in teaching children what is appropriate, so "Keep with it!" Sounds like you're very good at thinking what will communicate the message to him with your putting his hand down. And I wouldn't be surprised if he has a speech development spurt from now until his appointments. Who can complain about progress?!

Shelly said...

Oooh I've heard the flue is going around. Sorry you all got bitten by the bug!

Allie said...

Yummy looking chocolate! Sounds like a cure to me.

Linda said...

What beautiful chocolates! Glad to hear you are feeling better; hope your little guy gets well soon as well. Sounds like you are on the right track with the doctor referrals, etc. Good luck with everything!

Denise said...

Boy...not a good weekend. I hope the sickness is completely out of your home. Sorry to hear about your frustration with the doctor. my sister went through similar frustrations with all the doctors and specialists she had to work with when trying to get her boys diagnosed. Eventually they figured it out. I trust you will get your answers, too.

Molly said...

I am so so so sorry to hear about all of the troubles you are going through. Having dealt with this first hand (both of my boys were diagnosed with forms of autism), we went through the state first (we lived in NY at the time). I don't know if you have tried that route, yet, but if you haven't, maybe that is the way to go. I know that if we had waited for Tricare, well, we would still be waiting. If you have any questions, feel free to email me at molly_peckham@yahoo.com. :)

Jody said...

Those chocolates are so lovely they "look" like they belong on one of your layouts.
I had to laugh about you son talking now that you are going to see someone.
My girls always do that with some sort of ailment/ache they have, until I schedule an appt. then it miraculously disappears. :)

Lisa Dorsey said...

That chocolate does look yummy Danielle. I am so glad things are starting to improve with J. I really do not think it is that uncommon for 2 year olds to hit. Obviously not how you want him to express his feeling, but not that uncommon. Hang in there girl, consistancy is key.

Hugs,
Lisa

young said...

Hope everything goes well with the evaluation - every little bit of chocolate helps, I'm sure. They almost look too beautiful to eat, though!

*reyanna klein* said...

Yes, chocolate *does* make everything better. :) I like dark chocolate. :) I've been eating a lot of that lately... LOL. :D

And thanks so much for the cyber hugs. Your sweet words are really appreciated. :)

Helsbells said...

Oh wow - those chocolates look delicious :D